Is dating still a thing? Or is that a word from the past?
I spent the majority of my teenage years in a relationship, therefore wondering how and where I would meet someone never crossed my mind. Mind you, the way my ex and I met is probably more common now than ever, but we’ll leave that story for another time.
In a few short months I will be turning twenty-one. I am a third year University student that is currently working two jobs. In just a couple of weeks, I will be back to being a student, working, and also doing my school work. With a schedule like that, you can’t help but wonder how are you ever going to meet someone?
A lot of you are probably thinking I could meet someone at school.. Well, yes. I probably could, however it wouldn’t be an easy task, as the male to female ratio at my school is 1 to 4. The odds are not in my favor in this case.
I could meet someone at work. However, it seems to me that everyone at my work is already dating. I also don’t always agree with dating a co-worker. However, if I met someone I obviously wouldn’t pass up the opportunity just because I work with them.
This brings me to the point of today’s post. As a student, who also manages to work a minimum of 25 hours a week it leaves little, to no free time to do anything, let alone dating.
I find more and more people are getting into the world of online dating. While that isn’t my cup of tea, I do know that it has worked for many people, and that there are now things similar to online dating that are being invented.
We fortunately and unfortunately, live in a time that is all about technology, electronics, smart phones, social media, and many other things. However, app developers are using this to their advantage. The new thing now is dating (hookup) apps. Although I know there are many I personally only have experience with Tinder.
For those of you that don’t know, Tinder is a mobile app that allows you to connect (date, hookup, whatever you use it for) with other people in your area. It uses your location services to determine where you are, it then shows you other people in your area. Tinder shows you one to six photos of someone plus a short bio (if they choose to include) and you either swipe left or right on the photo. Swiping left, means that you are not interested in this person. Swiping right means that you are interested.
If you swipe right on someone, and then they also swipe right on your photo you are considered a “match.” What does this mean? Well it means you can now communicate with this person if you so choose.
When Tinder first came out, I was in a relationship at the time, therefore I had no need to download it. After my ex and I broke up, I still had no interest in the app, that so many loved.
It wasn’t until about a month after my breakup that my friend convinced me to get the app. I was in a really low places and she told me to download it to get my confidence up if nothing else.
The great and not so great thing about Tinder is that people are deciding if they like you based on 1-6 photos of yourself. That’s it! Talk about first impressions.
I am very self-conscious about my looks, I am probably the least confident person there is, when it comes to myself. Downloading Tinder was definitely a boost of confidence. After only my first night having the app, I woke up with 20 matches. I don’t care who you are, that was a ‘feelgoodaboutmyself’ moment.
I don’t still currently have Tinder, I have recently deleted it, due to several reasons. However, before I deleted it I had over 150 matches. Mind you of these matches I probably have only spoken to 10-20 tops. Some of them I wouldn’t even consider conversations, because some people use that app for hookups, and hookups only.
Although I have not met my Prince Charming on Tinder, I have talked to some people that I would now consider good friends. I have talked to some people that just genuinely made me feel good about myself. I have talked to my fair share of creeps. I have also talked to some people that really made me realize what I want when it is time for me to be in a relationship again.
I’ve learned so many things about so many different people that I would never have even known existed before. I think that’s pretty cool.
That brings me back to my main point. People bash Tinder and other similar apps and websites, but it isn’t always just about sex. As I said, I am very grateful for a lot of the people I have met through Tinder. As a girl in her twenties, who has next to no life because I am preoccupied with work and school, I don’t have time to go out and meet new people.
I really wish there wasn’t so much negativity behind this app, because while yes there are people that use it just for hookups, not everyone does. Some people use it as a confidence booster, while others use it to connect with others and meet new people.
What ever your reason is for using Tinder, don’t be ashamed. You never know, that’s how you could meet your future husband or wife.